Friends Compatibility and Conflict Report for
Birth Data for John:
John LennonOctober 9, 20206:30 PMLiverpool, England
Birth Data for Paul:
Paul McCartneyJune 18, 20202:00 PMLiverpool, England
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Your birth chart interpretation is based on the positions of the planets at the time of your birth. For the benefit of students of astrology, these positions, along with other technical information, are listed below:
Positions and Data for John:
Sun position is 16 deg. 16 min. of Libra
Moon position is 3 deg. 33 min. of Aquarius
Mercury position is 8 deg. 33 min. of Scorpio
Venus position is 3 deg. 13 min. of Virgo
Mars position is 2 deg. 40 min. of Libra
Jupiter position is 13 deg. 42 min. of Taurus
Saturn position is 13 deg. 13 min. of Taurus
Uranus position is 25 deg. 33 min. of Taurus
Neptune position is 26 deg. 02 min. of Virgo
Pluto position is 4 deg. 11 min. of Leo
Asc. position is 19 deg. 54 min. of Aries
MC position is 7 deg. 08 min. of Capricorn
2nd cusp position is 26 deg. 36 min. of Taurus
3rd cusp position is 20 deg. 05 min. of Gemini
5th cusp position is 29 deg. 18 min. of Cancer
6th cusp position is 3 deg. 39 min. of Virgo
Tropical/KOCH War Time observed. GMT: 17:30:00
Time Zone: 0 hours West. Lat & Long: 53 N 25 2 W 55
Positions and Data for Paul:
Sun position is 26 deg. 37 min. of Gemini
Moon position is 17 deg. 26 min. of Leo
Mercury position is 18 deg. 22 min. of Gemini
Venus position is 19 deg. 00 min. of Taurus
Mars position is 2 deg. 41 min. of Leo
Jupiter position is 1 deg. 50 min. of Cancer
Saturn position is 5 deg. 13 min. of Gemini
Uranus position is 1 deg. 58 min. of Gemini
Neptune position is 27 deg. 07 min. of Virgo
Pluto position is 4 deg. 16 min. of Leo
Asc. position is 25 deg. 18 min. of Virgo
MC position is 23 deg. 44 min. of Gemini
2nd cusp position is 24 deg. 01 min. of Libra
3rd cusp position is 22 deg. 34 min. of Scorpio
5th cusp position is 27 deg. 52 min. of Capricorn
6th cusp position is 26 deg. 41 min. of Aquarius
Tropical/KOCH Double DST observed. GMT: 12:00:00
Time Zone: 0 hours West. Lat & Long: 53 N 25 2 W 55
Welcome to the Compatibility and Conflict Report for Business and Friendship and the myriad ways of expressing the continual dance of relationship. This report is based on methods employed through years of working with relationships of all kinds, observing them and analyzing the lives of the famous and infamous. The contacts described in this program are certainly not all the combinations possible between two individuals. But they are the core patterns of relationship analysis that I begin with in determining areas of compatibility and potential conflict between individuals. These basic points of contact are analyzed to arrive at an interpretation of what is central for a strong relationship or for one that teaches something of importance and leaves a lasting impression.
In many of the interpretations, I've described the highest potential that one can strive for with a particular combination. Yet this is only a potential and being human we have complex emotions and contradictory issues and reactions at any given time in our lives. Use this report as a guide to make your relationships as rewarding and fulfilling as you possibly can while knowing that your relationships are simply mirroring your own soul's struggles. Each relationship will fulfill something within you and challenge you to look at your shadow and transform yourself. Sometimes this means staying in a relationship and sometimes the learning process requires that you let the relationship go. These decisions are never easy and they should only be made after careful and truthful introspection, reflection and guidance. But ultimately, these decisions are yours and yours alone to make. Remember that although you may have some difficult areas of relating with a particular person, it is in those areas that you can learn the most about yourself and others and grow in wisdom. It would be a mistake to look for a business partner or friend with whom you have no disagreements at all and this kind of relationship is a fantasy, rarely if ever, a reality.
Thank you for purchasing the report and I hope it is meaningful and useful to you.
Special thanks to John Flagg for unflagging editorial support.
To the mystery and magic of relationship chemistry, Dorothy Oja Copyright 2002
Chapter 1: Bonds For Energy, Fun and Lasting Impressions
This section is based on the idea that there are three basic needs in every relationship:
Interest, energy and stimulation.
Enjoyment, abundance, expansion of awareness/possibilities and sense of contentment or happiness.
Commitment, consistency, teaching each other, sharing values or reaffirming/confirming something essential in each other.
The sort between your charts is for eleven separate aspects that define energy, fun and lasting impressions between you. Most strong relationships have at least four to six of these aspects between their charts.
John's Sun Sextile Paul's Moon:
Core Themes: With an easy aspect of the Sun and Moon between your charts, there is an instant recognition of familiarity and compatibility. You naturally like each other and enjoy each other's company. You share some very similar attitudes, habits, likes and dislikes. You reflect and expand each other's instinctive and emotional behaviors. You may find yourselves saying the same things simultaneously or even having the same thoughts at the same time. Clearly, you will experience being comfortable with each other more often than not whenever you are together.
The natural flow of energy between you attracts both of you to seek each other out. On many levels of emotion and sensibilities, you readily agree, which makes an excellent basis for your developing friendship. In many ways, you are on the same wavelength and speak the same general life language, which creates harmony and closeness. In some very specific areas, you will share the same interests and this sharing can forge the foundation of a lasting friendship. The intent of this aspect is development and enhancement. You are able to give to each other in ways that are encouraging and supportive. These areas where you dovetail so easily will form a solid foundation that will weather the inevitable storms of other planetary contacts and potential conflicts between you.
John's Moon Opp Paul's Mars:
Core Themes: There is immediacy and a high level of energy to this connection, sometimes positive and other times negative. The intent of this aspect is to stimulate the emotions, create a reaction in the other person and release feelings. Finding positive ways to accomplish this is the challenge.
You two make things happen and your spur each other on. There's a direct, in-your-face quality to this interaction, which may or may not be your style. This aspect can be selfish, so grow up. You can't always have what you want but you can certainly lobby for it and state your case. Being pushy or instantaneously wanting your needs met or always having it your way is childish. Learn to negotiate and take turns getting what you want. If one person continually creates a tempest in a teapot, anger coaching or aggression management is indicated. No friendship can remain a battleground for too long before the battle scars create permanent damage and/or eventual dissolution of the relationship. Finding the true source of your anger will be key and is probably one of the reasons you two met to begin with. The fierce warrior-like quality of this pattern can become a deep loyalty and protection of each other and your goals and interests.
Paul's Moon Trine John's Asc.:
Core Themes: There is an easy outlet for the expression of emotions in your relationship and your association will have a strong emotional component. Provided you can handle the extra measure of emotional sensitivity, your relationship is enhanced by support of each other's feelings. The intent of this aspect is to increase your caring and nurturing capacities with each other and those whose lives you touch. Compassion and understanding in action is an important feature of your relationship.
Expressing your feelings freely will be important and necessary and will bring you closer in friendship. Sensing each other's moods and being responsive to these moods and each other's needs as well, is greatly facilitated by this aspect. Simply being yourself, being accepted and feeling liked is the prevailing mood created by this connection between you. The ability to be human, natural, available and sincere will bring you positive feedback from others whenever you are together. You generate compassion in each other and a special kind of sensitivity that can do wonders in the community around you, should you choose to use your energies in this way.
John's Moon Trine Paul's Saturn:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to build strong, lasting foundations and to develop and maintain emotional and material security. Resolving issues and finding solutions together will become a core talent. This aspect contributes to relationship longevity and significance because the inclination to build a solid relationship is inherent in the combination.
This friendship has smoothness to it because it is based on mutual respect and a sense of personal responsibility. There's not too much whining going on. When you spend time together you are likely to troubleshoot problems each of you is experiencing and you will be seeking each other's advice to find appropriate solutions. You are both stimulated by challenges and by making things function more smoothly. But don't get the idea that you won't have disagreements. Each of you can take a stand and an attitude that could get stuck on "principle". If the relationship is of value to you, you will find ways to resolve your differences. There can also be conflict concerning the "right" way to do something. It may be that you will have to choose different parts of activities to orchestrate separately, if need be to resolve the issue. Time is on your side and this friendship has a better than average chance to become a special and enduring one.
Paul's Moon Square John's Saturn:
Core Themes: This aspect is a binding one but has its share of struggles. The bond is one of a perceived (or real) responsibility toward each other. The two of you will have challenges and obstacles to overcome and obligations to shoulder. The intent of this energy pattern between you is to help you develop a greater understanding of trustworthiness and reliability, exactly what that means and where and how these concepts fit into your relationship.
Your friendship is challenged from the get go with difficult circumstances, strong differences in disposition or other environmental, ethnic or religious conditions. Still, there is something that holds the two of you two together because there is something deep that must be resolved. You both feel a sense of responsibility toward each other, but this can be masked as resentment for the work that needs to be done within the boundaries of your friendship. Avoiding the issues that arise between you will make things harder. Instead, confront the issues head-on no matter how unpleasant, and work through them. You will both be better for it and will feel as though a weight has been lifted from your shoulders. Betraying each other's trust will probably end your friendship quicker than you can say the word. Difficult as it may sometimes be, you are important to each other and you rely on each other's ethical conduct.
Paul's Moon Square John's Jupiter:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to stimulate emotional satisfaction and a generous, openhearted disposition. The intent of this aspect is also to teach you better judgment and encourage wisdom from the many and varied experiences you actively seek. The attributes of joy, hope, good will and a sense of adventure are highlighted. Feelings of expansiveness can easily induce you to overdo and overextend yourselves in various ways. You are likely to stimulate a wealth of feelings in each other and a generally open-minded attitude. The good life beckons and all that this implies. Abundance or excessiveness is part of this aspect, which is certainly not always a negative. It's up to you to decide how far to reach and how far to extend yourselves. Your enthusiasm will open doors and create opportunities.
This energy between you stimulates the endless possibilities available and encourages the freedom to express your emotions. Is there such a thing as too much of a good thing? That's a question the two of you will have to figure out in the course of your friendship, since this aspect does tend to excessive behavior of some kind. If you often feel stretched or overwhelmed in your interactions, you'll have to remedy the situation. Misjudgment can be a problem, so be sure you have the facts before you accuse each other of wrongdoing. Feelings can run out of control because there's nothing halfway about this combination. From time to time you'll need to evaluate the strong responses you generate in each other or find activities that absorb the overflow.
Paul's Venus Conj John's Jupiter:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to expand the full potential of your creative expression while still taking into account potential consequences and risk factors. There is no expansion or expression without universal feedback, and this aspect teaches you responsibility for your use of energy, your own, or the other person's. You seek a certain amount of variety and can tolerate a fair amount of risk-taking. Your over-optimism, however, can be like wearing rose-colored glasses, and you'll need to take them off now and then to deal with the important practical realities of life.
With Venus conjunct Jupiter there's a special affection between you, and you enjoy each other's company. There is a natural inclination to be generous with each other. This is an aspect of genuine affection and can make up for other difficult aspects you may share. Others will want to bask in the humorous, open and positive aura that you create. You will draw social relationships toward you, easily make connections and participate in many social activities, if you so choose. Travel possibilities are likely, as well as a wide range of learning situations. You are drawn to any activities that expand possibilities and offer positive experiences.
John's Venus Sextile Paul's Jupiter:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to expand the full potential of your creative expression while still taking into account potential consequences and risk factors. There is no expansion or expression without universal feedback and this aspect teaches you responsibility for your use of energy, your own or the other person's. You seek a certain amount of variety and can tolerate a fair amount of risk-taking. Your over-optimism, however, can be like wearing rose-colored glasses, and you'll need to take them off now and then to deal with the important practical realities of life.
Enjoyment is the name of the game and good humor is abundant when you are together. You'll find yourself laughing often and quickly generating your personal "inside jokes". There is genuine affection for each other and you express your warmth freely and easily. You generate happiness together as well as a generosity of spirit and optimistic attitude for life. In other words, you thrive in each other's company and benefit each other. These energies activate the good will in each of you and make for a very pleasant atmosphere of mutual consideration, generosity and caring.
John's Mars Square Paul's Jupiter:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is expansion of knowledge and aptitude through a variety of learning adventures including writing, publishing, promotion, sales, sports or religion. The end result is to attain wisdom and a greater capacity for self-expression - "to be the best you can be". The impulse is for improvement and breaking previous records or boundaries in whatever field you choose.
Expansion, risking, learning and traveling are part of your friendship and possibly what attracted you to each other in the first place. Enthusiasm and bravado are high and, in general, you will seek out the good times of life. Having fun is an essential part of this aspect and you are together, in part, to generate the belief that you can have or do whatever it is you really want. There is a kind of compulsive restlessness with this aspect, to grab for all the gusto you can manage in the moment, without stopping to consider consequences. Be careful of overdoing or using up your available resources -- mental, emotional, financial, or physical, even spiritual.
John's Mars Conj Paul's Asc.:
Core Themes: The immediacy of this aspect can be stimulating or disconcerting. Either way, it will initiate a greater awareness of yourself in relation to people and situations around you. The intent of this aspect is to fire up your energies and galvanize your self-assertive capabilities. It encourages self-understanding, initiation and self-protection if necessary.
You're either initially attracted to the other person or put off by his or her behavior, depending on other factors in each of your charts. You certainly won't be able to ignore each other. There is challenge in this friendship because you will often be too blunt and direct with each other and inadvertently hurt each other's feelings. Your relationship needs physical activity and newness but it can also generate impatience and selfishness. There's excitement when the two of you are together and you will seek out activities to utilize these energies. Games, outdoor activities, hiking and competitive sports can be some of those ways. Being allies or advocates for the same side instead of competitors will make your friendship a bit easier.
Chapter 2: Emotions and Communication
The following aspects detail the quality of your emotional connection, your basic level of comfort and your ease or difficulty in communicating, and discussing emotions and simply understanding where each of you is coming from. Additionally, these aspects help describe how you reason together and resolve issues or problems.
Paul's Moon in Leo, and John's is in Aquarius:
Core Themes: Dissimilar emotional needs are indicated and to some extent different dispositions. Some of each other's daily habits can be annoying or irritating, making sharing the same physical spaces for long periods of time more difficult. In matters of timing, it is likely that, occasionally, you will be on a different page than your partner and operate on another timing pattern. The intent of this aspect is to find your way to emotional understanding despite different sensibilities and to respect the feelings of the other person although unlike your own.
The two of you operate quite differently internally, which stems very much from your upbringing and your response to your early conditioning. These habits and predilections can be difficult or impossible to change, and you may simply have to accept the differences in each other if you value other aspects of your friendship. Discussing your feelings openly is a crucial part of this energy combination. There is a good chance that, once you really understand the feelings behind the attitude or habitual responses of your friend, greater tolerance will result. On the other hand, once your friend understands how you are affected by a particular response or habit, modifying the offending or annoying behavior is part of the compromise necessary for relationship harmony. This can certainly be a moody relationship with emotional skirmishes too frequent for your taste. There is more tendency for misunderstanding than not. Still, finding a way to work things out will bring both of you great richness of spirit and wisdom.
Paul's Mercury in Gemini, and John's is in Scorpio:
Core Themes: Outlook, perspective or styles of problem solving, even communicating, are the core of this aspect. This combination is more challenging because your mode of thinking and communicating tends to be quite different. The intent of this energy combination is to resolve issues of communication, speaking, reasoning etc., so that you can reach solutions and conclusions in creative and original ways.
As you get to know each other, you will quickly discover that you think very differently either about specific issues or simply in the way you reason. This isn't necessarily negative at all, because you can learn a great deal from each other's different perspectives on things. Although at times it will require patience, the process can become a most valuable lesson in communication and may very well change your perspective. I guess it depends on who's more persuasive! What's more, by taking the time to really understand your friend's reasoning, you can not only learn something important about your friend but also get a different slant on the issue that you may not have considered before. And you will learn how your own communication affects others, since your partner is probably not the only one who can't always understand what you're trying to say or figure out your brand of logic. You've attracted this kind of friendship exactly for the purpose of fine tuning your thought processes and becoming more adept and flexible in the ways you have of communicating with others.
Chapter 3: Fulfilling Each Otherís Relationship Needs
These aspects explain how you meet each other's needs in important business or friendship partnerships. These aspects are based on what your natal chart describes that you're looking for in any major one-on-one relationship interaction.
John's Sun Sextile Paul's 11th house ruler, Moon:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to teach you to take turns being the dominant person in the relationship and to share the responsibilities not only of power but also of expressing your feelings and caring for each other.
There is a very natural blending and bonding possible with this aspect. You complement each other best by taking turns giving and receiving and by diminishing excess ego. When you are together you fulfill each other's sense of what friendship can be. Emotional accessibility and exchange will be very important and possibly more important for one of you. Feelings can easily get hurt but are easily mended if each of you is willing to be honest. One of you is naturally more self-assured and with continued friendship, these qualities can benefit the one who is more emotionally sensitive. The one who is more emotionally available can soften the pride of the other. If you are both willing, there is much of value that you can share and give to each other.
John's Jupiter Square Paul's 11th house ruler, Moon:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to encourage you to take greater risks for your personal growth and to experience the bounty of life. But mix these adventures with some practical wisdom and an everyday stability.
With the enhancing and exuberant energy that is generated between you, you probably feel that the world is your oyster. Whatever you want to do seems possible with the zest of your combined energies. Typically a very generous, adventurous energy prevails when you are together, and it's nearly impossible to keep a lid on it. Since you can't help but share your unique brand of enthusiasm and joy with all who cross your path, what are you going to do with it? Certainly you'll always have an encouraging word for your friend when the chips are down. And even if problems arise in your separate lives, you'll somehow encourage each other to make the best or most of the situation and turn it to your advantage. You'll have many interests to share, with a tendency to go to excess, which if not curbed, can lead you into some predicaments you'll regret. Still, this aspect confers it's own unique blessings, and the best way to use these blessings is to pass them on to others.
John's Saturn Square Paul's 11th house ruler, Moon:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to clarify the definition you have for an important relationship and the rules and structure of life to which you choose to adhere. The extent to which you can identify these characteristics will determine the solidity or longevity of your relationships.
This is essentially a stabilizing, steadying influence and at least one of you may feel particularly protected by the energy generated between you. Somehow, you'll feel some responsibility toward each other or as if you owe your friend something. It doesn't matter if you ever figure this out, what matters is how you treat each other. You'll discover that there is something very deep and special and something that feels old or familiar about the way you relate to each other. You'll hurt each other around some basic things like lack of trust or lack of respect or simply being inconsiderate. These can cause deep breaches in your friendship so be careful of how you treat or mistreat each other. The other side of this aspect is an acceptance of what is, the reality of each of your lives and the willingness to take things as they are. It's important for the two of you to define the kind of friendship that you want to have and also one that is practical, given your other responsibilities. If you have the time, there is much you can do to improve your environment or your community.
John's Asc. Trine Paul's 11th house ruler, Moon:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to create awareness of your emotional responses and the effect you have on the emotions of others. Conversely, the moods of others can unnecessarily affect your disposition.
You connect on an emotional level, feeling a sympathetic understanding that encourages you to learn more about each other. Each of you will feel met by the other in your friendship, meaning there is an emotional responsiveness between you that you will grow to value and enjoy. Your feelings are immediate, and, in the moment, and you will quickly be able to read your friend's emotional cues or body language. It will be difficult to hide your true feelings from your friend (nor would you want to), since you are especially sensitive to each other's subtle mood changes. This aspect requires that you have plenty of emotional down time, time to putter, and time simply to feel what's going on between you and in your environment. You can have a great time just hanging out.
Paul's Moon Square John's 11th house ruler, Saturn:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to remind you of the preciousness of life and how important it is to respect, honor and treat with care whatever enters your circle of life. The steady progression and development of the past into the present has a strong effect.
With this aspect, you probably recognized early on in your relationship that it was an important connection or that you had something to teach each other. There is a sense of history or of deep, even ancient feelings that draw you closer together. Sometimes this combination brings obstacles or challenges to being with each other, or you will feel restricted in the circumstances created between and around you. Still, the feelings you have for each other tend to be strong one-way or the other, and, if you are committed to the friendship, you will work to remove the obstacles that exist. There is somewhat of a desire to take care of each other, protect each other or nurture an idea or project together. You may share space with each other, a home or office, or in some way have an effect on each other's domestic situation as well as career goals.
Paul's Venus Conj John's 11th house ruler, Saturn:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to bring you in touch with the core values by which you live and the standards that define your interactions with others. Commitment, trust and integrity are essential values explored in this aspect.
After spending just a short time together, you may feel that your friendship has a fated quality or that you were meant to be important to each other in some way. It's possible that you can recognize the reasons you've connected easily or else they may develop over time. Each of you may bring personal responsibilities to the friendship and you'll have to adjust your friendship around each of your other commitments and responsibilities. However, it can make the time you have together more precious and meaningful. Perhaps you'll be fortunate and share exactly the same values on the important issues of life, and this will certainly create a special bond between you. On the other hand, you may differ markedly on some major life value, and this will test both your tolerance for differences. As long as you respect teach other's rights to hold different views, it could be a great learning experience. But if these different values interfere too often in the course of your friendship or if one of you tries to impose their values on the other, the friendship may not last.
Chapter 4: Your Closest Contacts, Your Strongest Themes
This section interprets the closest connections between your charts. The wisdom of this section says that the closest aspects explain the major or central themes of your relationship and the reason you have come together. The nature of these aspects will also define the main activities, interests and patterns that affect your relationship life together.
Notice that, in this section, each paragraph contains both the easier expression of energies and the more challenging ones. Both interpretations are included because these close connections pertain to the central learning curve of your relationship. Based on the premise that the more exact the connection (also the closest energetic contact) between your pair of planets, the more psychologically significant the aspect will be for each of you. This means that you are likely to be strongly influenced by each other in the areas described. Because of this, it will be useful to consider both the easier and more challenging interpretations even though you lead with one of them. You will, from time to time and in various circumstances, probably exhibit some elements of each interpretation, both the easier expressions as well as the more challenging ones. Another thing - it's possible with both types of aspects that you will have the same challenges but simply respond or react to them in different ways. The goal is to rise to the best possible expression of each combination. This is the learning curve and this bestows the necessary wisdom to develop your relationship.
John's Uranus Trine Paul's Asc. (easier aspect):
Core Themes: If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is to express yourselves freely without excessive constraint and without automatically conforming to societal expectations. You support truth and human rights.
Easier aspects: You may find your friend to be unusual in some way, either in looks or in a unique, original way of approaching life. Sociability for both of you is likely to be increased as a result of your friendship. Sharing friends will create a large social network on which you can draw for support in various ways and for projects you may wish to create. In your friendship, honesty is a high value and, if you conduct your friendship in an open, honest and allowing way, you are likely always to remain best friends. Your interests are sure to be progressive and even a bit avant-garde. You support the most important human freedoms, including freedom of speech, religion and simply freedom of expression. You are not overly concerned with what people will think if you dress differently, speak your mind freely or otherwise step outside the box in which society likes to keep the masses. Most people will find you refreshing, amusing and interesting.
Challenging aspects: As friends, although you often land in controversial situations against your will, there are also times when you invite them. Make sure you have good reason to be rebels, and as they say, "choose your fights". If you're always antagonizing each other, you will earn a reputation as rabble-rousers, malcontents or simply troublemakers. There's more than one way to get your point across. Your relationships in general can be chaotic, if you deliberately embarrass or alienate others with your brutal honesty. Truthfulness is one thing, but, as a famous poet once said, there's wisdom in the phrase, "tell the truth but tell it slant". Sometimes it's inappropriate or counterproductive to your goal to be too direct with the truth. Make sure you are not just out for shock value but really have something to say that will positively affect people's consciousness or opinion.
John's Mars Sextile Paul's Mars (easier aspect):
Core Themes: If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is to manage anger and positively express or channel your vital energies by setting goals and taking action to realize them.
Easier aspects: A lively, fun attitude is likely what attracted you to your friend. You are physically active as friends, full of life, zest and a desire to compete in some way. You could be active in sports either for fun or competitively. Whatever you choose, you'll want to be actively involved or go where the action is. Waiting bores you, because you're enterprising doers and work to make tracks to reach whatever goal you've identified for yourselves. Although being direct with one another is part of this connection, most of the time you appreciate this way of behaving in your friend and in your general way of interacting. One of the greatest gifts of this combination is that you'll each get a chance to reinvent yourselves or address your purpose, goals and self-image. You will be there for each other to support and process the new insights stimulated and the sense of self that is encouraged.
Challenging aspects: This is no doubt an energizing combination between you. Be aware that simply by its nature it's also competitive or even combative. Before you lash out in anger, cool off and consider the source of your anger. Further consider the way you will express your disagreement with you friend. Nothing is served by excessive anger and certainly not by "hitting below the belt" or wounding your friend in a vulnerable area.
This aspect asks you to practice some self-control, to realize when you are going beyond the bounds of fairness. There's a time for boldness and courage and a time to compromise. Knowing the difference makes all the difference in your life and friendship. The best advice for this combination is, "don't burn your bridges".
John's Neptune Conj Paul's Asc.:
Core Themes: If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship themes are sensitivity and compassionate attunement to others and to your surroundings. There is also strong artistic sensibility and involvements with faith or religious beliefs.
Challenging aspects: You easily absorb the energies of the environment or people close to you and you were attracted to your friend by something you felt energetically. It becomes apparent quickly that you are very sensitive and responsive to each other's moods. This can be a good thing or it can be problematic. It's an issue if you act on what you perceive without first checking with your friend about the truth of your perception. This same condition is operative in any highly stimulating environments you participate in or with people with whom you are emotionally connected. Take regular downtime to sort out the stimuli you've absorbed, in order to alleviate the saturation and, oftentimes, confusion that results. Life can be tricky for those with your sensibility, until you establish filter and boundaries for miscellaneous and often negative energies you're receptive to. Music and arts help to soothe, as does a supportive belief or spiritual practice.
Easier aspects: Being in each other's presence, you knew very quickly whether you wanted to pursue a friendship. The quality of emotional energy when you are together and the energy exchanged between you mean more to you than some other personal characteristics. There's a type of unspoken attunement that each of you gauge the friendship by. You'll know quickly if one of you is upset about something, since that tonal quality you perceive in each other will change. Just be sure you don't misinterpret your friend's mood. Ask to be sure. Music and the arts run like a thread through your lives and will provide many excursions and many fond memories. You are mental/emotional explorers and so your conversations and philosophical enquiries will be far-reaching. You seek meaning in all that you do. Caring, compassion and being of service to those in need are also things you value.
John's Moon Opp Paul's Pluto (challenging aspect):
Core Themes: If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship themes concern managing the deep feelings you arouse in each other and your investments of emotion, energy and money. Learning to channel positively, the powerful emotions generated by your partnership is your next challenge.
Challenging aspects: Both of you may be disconcerted by the powerful effects and feelings you generate together. Seemingly out of nowhere intense feelings are stirred, surprising both of you. There's a way you have of finding each other's vulnerabilities. That's no problem in and of itself unless you use each other's weaknesses to hurt. When you intentionally harass each other, that's when the real problems occur. The biggest lesson of this combination is to be sensitive to your friend's weaknesses and never hit below the belt even in an argument. The power to harm can be strongest at times when you yourself are hurt but the greatest strength comes from learning self-control. The best way to use the transformative potentials you have is to transform and bring constructive change to systems that you are involved with or through community service. If you don't master your own energies and temper, your friendship is unlikely to survive.
Easier aspects: You are drawn to the deep, often inexplicable feelings between you. It's as if you've known each other forever. Not only that, you often feel the same feelings at the same time and have very similar thoughts. The effect you have on each other is a powerful and indelible one and may not be fully understood until some time has passed in the course of your friendship. The bond with each other is strong but you may not know exactly how to use the energy that is generated. Discuss with each other what you perceive about the nature of your relationship, there's no doubt that you will. You have the ability to make each other consider the course of your lives and give each other the strength and support to go after what you truly want. There's no doubt you will help each other individually to become the very best you can be. In addition, you can turn your strong, powerful and transformative energies toward other projects of your own design that maximize your talents and bring you satisfaction and empowerment. Anywhere you focus your energy, healing and positive change can take place, including community action, politics and other social causes.
Paul's Sun Square John's Neptune (challenging aspect):
Core Themes: If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is to trust your insight while simultaneously distinguishing between fantasy and reality. Having and maintaining faith and adhering to a spiritual practice will alleviate life's many incongruities and contradictions. Seeking and providing inspiration and meaning through your faith, compassion or your artistic sensibilities, will be central and essential.
Challenging aspects: Although you are drawn to each other in friendship, there are probably some mixed messages that need clarification. Problems could result when one of you avoids discussing difficulties between you or acts in a way that is unreliable. Another possibility is that one of you has life issues and problems too frequently, which burdens the friendship. There is potential playing the victim or victimizing your friend. Do not allow yourself to be involved in questionable or unsavory situations or substance abuse. Never allow abuse and be clear about your boundaries. This combination certainly brings lessons concerning your boundaries and your positive faith in pursuing a life well lived.
Easier aspects: From the beginning, you'll feel the magical, refined and highly sensitive or perceptive way that you relate. You'll find it refreshing and delightful. More than likely you are both interested in relating in a more mature and considerate way. Possibly each of you also has a faith or a spiritual practice that guides your lives. In any case, you are probably both aware of other forces operating in the universe that are subtle and unseen but certainly as powerful as the "collective reality" we live in. One or both of you may have artistic tendencies or even work in the arts, in human resources or the helping professions. Your friendship will share some or all of these dimensions, including a gentleness and kindness in your interactions.
John's Mars Trine Paul's Uranus (easier aspect):
Core Themes: If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship themes concern expressing uniqueness and originality and accepting being different or controversial. Standing for truthfulness, the bigger picture, taking the high road and human rights are other characteristics of this aspect.
Easier aspects: The reason you've connected is because each of you is seeking an elevated level of consciousness. Neither of you is completely satisfied with the mundane or the purely traditional, which says keep doing it because it's always been done this way before. This way of thinking definitely does not compute. Even in your friendship, you seek innovation and you will often discuss and brainstorm difficult and complex ideas or concepts. You will seek originality and creativity in the activities you pursue, perhaps with a special fondness for the avant-garde. The high esteem in which you hold humanity and human rights may cause you to rally for these issues in different ways or to join movements or organizations that speak to issues such as animal rights, amnesty international or any organization that deals with consumer protection and lifestyle or workplace issues.
Challenging aspects: Your friendship is unusual or is stimulated by and seeks the unusual, creative, original or innovative in life. There could be an element of the controversial in your choice of friends, since your strongest value is uniqueness rather than conformity. When you see blatant violations of human rights, your anger is generated and you need to be careful of overstepping your bounds and going to extremes. If you can funnel your strong warrior instincts for human rights into a just cause, you'll soak up the excess that could go out of control. In your friendship, make sure you don't expect more from your friend than you are willing to give. In other words, as much as you espouse freedom and individuality, you may demand that for yourself but have other expectations for your friendship. Issues of honesty and truthfulness are part of this aspect, and lying will definitely not be tolerated.
John's Moon Opp Paul's Mars (challenging aspect):
Core Themes: If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is emotional excitement, stimulation and high energy. This aspect also refers to the expression of your feelings and how you deal with anger and conflict.
Challenging aspects: Although you generate a great deal of energy when you're together, it can often turn to annoyance or even anger. Somehow or other, you manage to get under each other's skin and irritate each other. This situation will require patience on your part and the willingness to be direct and confront the situations that annoy you. Although important to confront your issues, it's best if you give yourself a chance to cool down first. There's a tendency with this combination to act first and consider the consequences later. The reverse order is definitely better. The combination tends to heat up quickly and react just as quickly, which causes many upsets. Instead of fighting with each other, put your excess energy to good use in a mutual project or community service work. Otherwise, if you keep getting angry, you may quickly find yourself with one less friend.
Easier aspects: There's never a dull moment when you are together. Your combined energies generate more than the average get-up-and go. You bring out a mischievous, even devilish spark in each other and both of you are more than willing to initiate action when you are together. Because of this, your energies are best harnessed to a specific project that you can run with. You are starters and enjoy trying something new. The energy to get going can mean that you lack patience and you'll have to find ways to counteract this tendency. You can whip up a crowd so, in a group, you two would be the life of the party. You have a unique way of playing off each other, making jokes and bantering. In a crisis, you'd be the first to respond. You're not about to wait for the next person to act.
John's Mars Square Paul's Jupiter (challenging aspect):
Core Themes: If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is to challenge yourselves and take risks based on your ideals and dreams. Expanding and stretching previous boundaries through education, travel and sports are other expressions.
Challenging aspects: You recognize the gleam of fun and adventure in your friend. This combination, although enthusiastic, is almost too enthusiastic at times and, if you're not careful, can turn to opportunism, which will not earn you the friends you want and could easily make you "personae non gratae". There is a love of enhancement or doing things in a big way. Of course, there's nothing essentially wrong with that unless it means you create a lack elsewhere in your life, such as your pocketbook! Enjoying life and having a good time are definitely a top priority. You can certainly have this but not at the expense of others. Channel your energies into an ideal or into making something better for someone else by giving generously of your time and talent.
Easier aspects: Your friendship will challenge you to push against the existing parameters of your life. Life will open up into an abundant cornucopia. There will be so many choices that you will often find yourselves in a state of indecision about what to do first. The enthusiasm you generate together and your philosophical attitude mean you may find yourselves talking for hours about the fine points of something you strongly believe in or simply about the purpose of life. Your desire to be active and to remain challenged can lead you to participating in a variety of physical activities or to watching sports activities. You'll find you're hungry to learn and expand your knowledge, so taking classes or even traveling together is not out of the question.