Compatibility
and Conflict Report for
Dick
Van Dyke
and
Mary
Tyler Moore
Birth
Data for Dick:
Dick
Van Dyke
December
13, 1925
6:30
PM
West
Plains, Missouri
Birth
Data for Mary Tyler:
Mary
Tyler Moore
December
29, 1936
10:45
AM
Brooklyn,
N.Y.C., NY
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Your birth chart interpretation is based
on the positions of the planets at the time of your birth. For the benefit of
students of astrology, these positions, along with other technical information,
are listed below:
Positions and Data for
Dick:
Sun position is 21 deg. 31 min. of
Sagittarius
Moon position is 27 deg. 42 min. of
Scorpio
Mercury position is 15 deg. 58 min. of Sagittarius
Venus position is 7 deg. 42 min. of Aquarius
Mars position is 20 deg. 27 min. of
Scorpio
Jupiter position is 24 deg. 49 min. of
Capricorn
Saturn position is 20 deg. 58 min. of
Scorpio
Uranus position is 21 deg. 37 min. of Pisces
Neptune position is 24 deg. 43 min. of Leo
Pluto position is 14 deg. 07 min. of
Cancer
Asc. position is 14 deg. 41 min. of Cancer
MC position is 27 deg. 37 min. of
Pisces
2nd cusp position is
9 deg. 09 min. of Leo
3rd cusp position is
3 deg. 14 min. of Virgo
5th cusp position is 12 deg. 51 min. of Scorpio
6th cusp position is 17 deg. 28 min. of Sagittarius
Tropical/KOCH Standard time observed. GMT: 00:30:00
Time Zone: 6 hours
West. Lat & Long: 36 N 43 41 91 W 51 08
Positions and Data for
Mary Tyler:
Sun position is 7 deg. 47 min. of Capricorn
Moon position is 27 deg. 24 min. of
Cancer
Mercury position is 27 deg. 22 min. of
Capricorn
Venus position is 21 deg. 20 min. of
Aquarius
Mars position is 26 deg. 03 min. of
Libra
Jupiter position is 6 deg. 13 min. of Capricorn
Saturn position is 17 deg. 11 min. of Pisces
Uranus position is 5 deg. 43 min. of Taurus
Neptune position is 18 deg. 57 min. of Virgo
Pluto position is 28 deg. 04 min. of
Cancer
Asc. position is 13 deg. 06 min. of
Pisces
MC position is 20 deg. 58 min. of
Sagittarius
2nd cusp position is 22 deg. 09 min. of Aries
3rd cusp position is 25 deg. 30 min. of Taurus
5th cusp position is 12 deg. 12 min. of Cancer
6th cusp position is
8 deg. 35 min. of Leo
Tropical/KOCH Standard time observed. GMT: 15:45:00
Time Zone: 5 hours
West. Lat & Long: 40 N 41 43 73 W 59 39
Dear friends:
Welcome to the
Compatibility and Conflict Report and the myriad ways of expressing the
continual dance of life. This report is based on methods employed through years
of working with couples, observing relationships and analyzing the lives of the
famous and infamous. The contacts described within this program are certainly
not all the combinations possible between two people. But they are the core
patterns of relationship analysis that I begin with in determining areas of
compatibility and potential conflict between two people. I analyze these basic
points of contact to arrive at my interpretation of what is central for an
enduring relationship or for one that teaches something of importance and
leaves a lasting impression. Additional parts, patterns and interpretations
will be added to this report in the future.
In many of the
interpretations, I've described the highest potential that one can strive for
with a particular combination. Yet it is only a potential and we are human and
have complex emotions and contradictory issues and reactions at any given time
in our lives. Use this report as a guideline to make your relationships as
rewarding and fulfilling as you possibly can. And know that your relationships
are simply mirroring your own soul's struggles. Each relationship will fulfill
something within you and challenge you to look at your shadow and transform yourself.
Sometimes this means staying with a partner or a relationship and sometimes the
learning process requires that you let the relationship go. These decisions are
never easy and they should only be made after careful and truthful
introspection, reflection and guidance. But ultimately, these decisions are
yours and yours alone to make. Remember that variety is the spice of life and
that although you may have some difficult areas of relating with a partner, it
is in those areas that you can learn the most about yourself and others and
grow in wisdom. It would be a mistake to look for a partner with whom you have
no disagreements at all and this kind of relationship is a fantasy, rarely if
ever, a reality.
Thank you for
purchasing this report and I hope it is meaningful and useful to you.
Special thanks to John
Flagg for unflagging editorial support.
To the mystery and
magic of relationship chemistry,
Dorothy Oja
Copyright 2000
Chapter
1: Enjoyment, Closeness and Lasting Impressions
This section is based on
the idea that there are three basic needs in every relationship:
* Interest, energy and stimulation or
sexuality.
*
Enjoyment, abundance, expansion
of awareness and
happiness.
* Patterns for commitment, consistency,
teaching each other or reaffirming something essential one for the other and
vice versa.
The sort between your
charts is for eleven separate aspects that define energy, fun and lasting
impressions between you. Most strong relationships have at least four to six of
these aspects between their charts.
Dick's MC in Pisces
and Mary Tyler's Asc in Pisces:
The personality style
of the ASC partner is reflected somehow in the career path or objectives of the
MC partner. The MC partner is inspired by the easy and natural expression of
energy of the ASC partner and feels supported in career priorities, goals or
needs. The ASC partner feels the career or goals of the MC partner harmonize or
resonate with some innate aspect of their personality. Another intent of this
aspect is to show how personality and career are related and intertwined. You
will help each other with career choices and personal expression. Your
personality may or may not be an advantage to your partner’s career objectives,
that depends on other factors. However, a resonance is established because you
reach out to the environment and pursue objectives sharing some similar values,
interests or energy.
Dick's Sun Square
Mary Tyler's Saturn:
There is a serious
quality in your relationship and a strong bond with each other. You may feel
obligated toward each other or there could be obstacles making it difficult for
you to be together. It is important for you to determine the level of
commitment and responsibility you are willing to make. There are bound to be
some obstacles for you to overcome in your life together. You may find the
challenges strengthening to your bond with each other or they may prove to be
burdensome. You have chosen this level of relating in order to develop
endurance, integrity or to build something lasting together. This aspect tests
your sense of integrity and right and wrong. Either one of you may resist these
forces and choose not to take on the challenge but if you do, you will be stronger
for it. This aspect requires a level of maturity and acceptance of certain
responsibilities. No wimps need apply. If you focus only on the difficulties
between you they will loom larger. If you focus on resolving your problems with mutual respect, your
relationship will grow stronger and more stable over time. You have something
important to accomplish together. Whatever the developmental level that you are
able to reach, this relationship will create an impact that will not soon be
forgotten.
Mary Tyler's Moon
Opp Dick's Jupiter:
This energy between
you expresses the endless possibilities available and encourages the freedom to
express your emotions. At the same time, the aspect leans towards excessive
expression. Whether an expression is excessive, over the top or fitting for a
particular context, is something the two of you will have to decide. How much
is too much and the resultant consequences, is the learning curve you will be
testing together. This aspect requires that both of you determine how you are
exceeding your boundaries and whether that’s a good thing or not. Emotions will
go out of control from time to time particularly when one of you is overwhelmed
with too much to handle. The intent of this aspect is to teach you better
judgment and encourage wisdom from the many and varied experiences you actively
seek. There will be times of poor judgement when you will discover that you
failed to take an important element of a situation into consideration. Resist
saying "yes" until you’ve evaluated the conditions or slept on the
idea or proposition. Exaggeration and failing to keep promises will create
problems for you and so will overoptimism without full knowledge of the facts.
If you experience too much "bad luck", re-evaluate your choices and
be sure to be generous wherever you can to maintain the balance between taking
and giving in your lives together.
Mary Tyler's Mars
Square Dick's Jupiter:
Expansion, risking,
learning and traveling are part of your life together. Enthusiasm and bravado
are high and, in general, you will seek out the good times of life. Having fun
is an essential part of this aspect, and you are together, in part, to generate
the belief that you can have or do what you really want to. There is a kind of
compulsive restlessness with this aspect, to "grab for all the gusto you
can." Be careful of overdoing it or using up all your available resources.
In your zeal for adventure, you may overlook some important facts that will
inevitably bring undesirable consequences. If you exceed your limitations one
too many times, you could cause yourselves unnecessary misfortune. The
intention of this energy combination between you is to strive for a generous
life, all- encompassing, with more options and choices. Just be sure that the
choices you make or the experiences you choose match your overall goals and
have integrity. This aspect is particularly prone to questioning whether the
end justifies the means. Incorporating spiritual principles will alleviate some
of the negative implications of this aspect.
Chapter
2: Emotions and Communication Between You
These aspects detail
the quality of the emotional connection and basic comfort between the two of
you and your ease or difficulty in communicating, talking with each other and
simply understanding where each of you is coming from. These aspects also
describe how you reason together and resolve issues or problems.
Dick's Moon Trine
Mary Tyler's Moon:
You are each blessed
with a natural, easygoing and similar emotional style. You share some of the
same rhythms and habits that will make daily contact more comfortable for each
of you. Timing will not be as much of an issue, in that you can more easily and
quickly respond to each other's emotional levels of excitement or energy and
empathize with each other's disappointments, in ways that both of you feel met
by the other. You can fire each other up and cool each other down because
you'll frequently be riding the same emotional wave. You're able to support
each other when feelings overflow. Basically, you both seek the same kinds of
comforts and can relate easily to each other's peculiarities. In fact, you can
accommodate your partner's idiosyncrasies with humor and even turn them into
jokes that become part of the private fabric of your relationship life. If you
share living space, you are likely to have domestic tastes that match easily.
Environments that comfort and support you are more often than not, shared by
your partner. Social connections and the types of people you choose to interact
with will be similar. And you will appreciate the fact that you love the same
interests and are able to share and enjoy numerous different activities
together. This is not to say that at times you won't be totally perplexed by
each other's reactions because there are other factors in each of your
personalities that must be considered. Also, if your upbringing is very
different, it will add to the emotional adjustments you will need to make.
Still, on the whole it seems easier for the two of you to make these
adjustments.
Dick's Mercury in
Sagittarius, and Mary Tyler's is in Capricorn:
Although you are
attracted to each other, there are times when one of you will have great
difficulty in figuring out where the other is coming from and what she (or he)
is trying to tell you. Your styles of communication can be very different. The
premises upon which you base your reasoning or the logic you use will often
perplex your partner. Especially if you have to decide on projects or
activities together, your differences can quickly become an issue between you.
Talking things through slowly, step by step, will help each of you to
understand how the other arrived at his (or her) opinion or conclusion. This
will take patience but in the end will be worth it. What's more, by taking the
time to really understand how your partner is thinking, you can not only learn
something important about your partner but also get a different perspective yourself.
You will also learn how your communication affects others, since your partner
is probably not the only one who can't always understand what you're trying to
say or figure out your logic. You've attracted this kind of relationship
exactly for the purpose of fine tuning your thought processes and becoming more
adept and flexible in the ways you have of communicating with others. This will
be doubly useful if you are in a business that requires writing or regularly
communicating with others.
Chapter
3: Fulfilling Each Other's Partnerships Needs
These aspects explain
how you meet each other's desires and dreams in special partnerships and
one-on-one relationships. These aspects are based on what your natal chart
describes that you're looking for in any major relational interaction.
Dick's Moon Sextile
Mary Tyler's 7th house ruler, Mercury:
There is a subtle
emotional communication between you. Often a subliminal understanding of each
other’s moods means that you can intuit what your partner is about to say or
do. And you communicate quite easily on a wide variety of topics. There will,
however, be a strong emotional content to your communication. And you will
often want to discuss your feelings and concerns with each other. The quality
of your communication with each other, not so much what you say but how you say
it, will be important to the harmony between you. Domestic and family concerns
are important topics between you and learning to problem-solve sensitive issues
that one or both of you both feel strongly about, will be one of your
challenges. Nurturing and creating spaces for development to take place - such
as, but not limited to, safe environments for children, teens or women is a
strong possibility. The common denominator in many of your projects is creating
situations that are nurturing as well as informative. The intent of this aspect
is to make you aware of the emotional undercurrents of language and how voice
tone and inflection can make all the difference in your communication and how others
receive it. Processing what you’ve learned separately and together will be
necessary on a very regular basis. Whether or not you feel heard by your
partner and that your opinion is acknowledged is another crucial learning in
your relationship.
Dick's Jupiter Conj
Mary Tyler's 7th house ruler, Mercury:
You encourage a
restlessness and wanderlust in each other and a yearning or seeking for a
better quality of life. It’s very possible the two of you could travel together
or somehow expand your normal boundaries by learning, teaching, writing and
adventuring. You will appear to others as very positive in your outlook,
broadminded and generous in nature. Your enthusiasm is infectious and you will
encourage others to reach out or take greater risks for themselves. Guard
against the tendency to exaggerate or make promises that you can’t or won’t
keep. If you want to embellish your experiences or discoveries, then share your
adventures in a positive framework such as storytelling, writing, art,
photography or other such outlets. Sleep on any really important or major life
decisions and always consider the long-term consequences of your actions, words
or decisions. The intent of this aspect is to teach you wisdom through the
experience of sharing adventures, making choices and testing your limits. Not
all opportunities are created equal and not all of them are worth your time and
energy. Some things are not worth the risk but others are. This aspect will
teach you the difference between the two.
Dick's MC Sextile
Mary Tyler's 7th house ruler, Mercury:
Initially, you will be
attracted to each other through some form of communication, or a situation of
learning, writing, commuting or social networking. Communication, learning,
traveling, youth services, writing - any of these can be important interests or
activities in the course of your ongoing relationship. How you relate and talk
to each other, or your favorite topics of discussion will have some impact on
either one or the other’s career. Balancing career commitments with leisure and
at home time is another issue that will require your negotiation and
communication. The intent of this aspect is to make you aware of the important
role of language and communication in the overall successful functioning of
your relationship. You are together to share knowledge, not only with each
other but also within your community circle which can include, but is not
limited to, local schools, churches, politics, programs for children or young
adults or any number of other community services that attract your interest.
Mary Tyler's Venus
Square Dick's 7th house ruler, Saturn:
After just a short
while together, you may feel that your relationship has a fated quality or that
you were meant to be together in some important way. It's possible that you can
recognize the reasons you are together easily or they may develop over time.
Whether you have a conscious understanding of what draws you to each other is
not as important as your acknowledgement of the inescapably deep feelings you
do have. There is a certain amount of ambition that comes with this
combination, and you will have to decide how to balance and mesh your careers
with your personal life. Your commitment to each other is likely to be tested,
and how you pass the tests will set the course of your life or contract
together. Each of you may bring personal responsibilities to the relationship
and you will tend to create more in your partnership together. You will
gradually determine patterns and boundaries that suit your style and fit the
level of responsibility and leadership you wish to assume. The intent of this
aspect is to bring you in touch with the core principles by which you live and
the standards that define your characters. The strength and reliability you
display will be recognized by others, and they will trust you with as much
responsibility as you are able and willing to shoulder.
Mary Tyler's Saturn
Trine Dick's 7th house ruler, Saturn:
Your relationship
could have a slow beginning, since you bring out the cautious parts of each
other. You are both somewhat reluctant about making any kind of important
commitment. Neither of you is naturally inclined to make promises that you
don’t intend to keep. You are both aware of what is required in terms of time
and energy and you will not make promises lightly. In fact, it is just these
principles that you tend to bring out in each other. You will be challenged
around your sense of timing and your ability to perfect your techniques and
talents and reach a level of excellence and expertise. You are both aware of
the importance of a strong foundation and of the detriment of a lack of one.
The way you were raised or parented will have great influence on how you
conduct yourselves in your relationship. The intent of this aspect is to make
you aware of going slowly, so that you can construct a solid foundation on
which to build a life and dreams, whatever partnership or specific career goals
you have. Recognition and achievement are important elements within your
relationship. Life will bring its share of disappointments but if you can
support each other during those times, your relationship will be stronger
because of the trials you’ve endured together.
Mary Tyler's
Neptune Sextile Dick's 7th house ruler, Saturn:
There is an
intangible, mysterious, possibly even mystical quality to the way the two of
you relate. You may even have felt confused by what you sensed from each other,
especially when you first met. There is no question that, because of this combination
of energies, you will challenge each other's sense of reality. You will want to
indulge in romantic or fantasy notions, which is delightful as long as you
don’t get blinded to important realities. Sooner or later, a sobering effect
will take hold and you will have to see each other’s feet of clay. This can
mean disappointment if you are unable to blend the dreams and magic with a
practical reality. However, if you can make your dreams survive everyday
necessities and pragmatic conditions, you will have the best of all
partnerships. The work you do may bring you in contact with artists and other
creative types. You could also share a past history of substance abuse and
addiction in your close family ranks. This can be a tricky aspect but a strong
spiritual sensibility or orientation will help to counter any unrealistic or
negative escapist tendencies. Do not keep secrets from each other, as that will
backfire and cause great hurt to the sensitivities you’ve yielded to each
other. The intent of this aspect is to teach you to tread softly on your
partner's dreams, support the tender places of your partner's heart and the
sore spots we all have from life’s battles. A deep soul connection is possible
if you have reached a selfless and responsible maturity or are willing to work
on it.
Chapter
4: Your Closest Contacts, Your Strongest Themes
This section
interprets the closest connections between your charts. The idea is that the
closest ties explain the major or central themes of your relationships and the
reason you have come together. The nature of these aspects will also define the
main activities, interests and patterns that comprise your life together.
Notice that in this
section each paragraph contains both the easier expression of energies as well
as the more challenging ones. Both interpretations are included because these
close connections pertain to the central learning curve of your relationship.
Based on the premise that the more exact the connection (also the closest
energetic contact) between your pair of planets, the more psychologically
significant the aspect will be for each of you. This means that you are likely
to be strongly influenced by each other in the areas described. Because of
this, it will be useful to consider both the easier and more challenging
interpretations even though you lead with one of them. You will, from time to
time and in various circumstances, probably exhibit some elements of each
group, both the easier expressions as well as the more challenging ones.
Another thing -- it's possible with both types of aspects that you will have
the same challenges but simply respond or react to them in different ways. The
goal is to rise to the best possible expression of each combination. This is
the learning curve and this bestows wisdom.
Mary Tyler's Moon
Trine Dick's MC (easier aspect):
If this is the most
exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme concerns the
quality of your emotional responses, particularly in the contexts and
environments of home and workplace.
Easier aspects: You
appear to have a knack for responding sincerely to others and others respond to
you because of your naturalness. No matter what your position in life, you
manage to remain approachable and concerned for the feelings and needs of
others. You are either devoted to family or to career or mange to balance both.
If someone is in need, you will find a way to help. Caring for others,
particularly your family, always comes first.
Challenging
aspects: You may have some difficulty
in getting the response you want from others. Or you could find that the
emotions you struggle with prevent you from being as responsive as you would
like in your career or even in domestic matters. Lack of emotional boundaries
or taking unfair advantage of others' emotional weaknesses or personal
experience of being taken advantage of, can make life difficult for you.
Sorting through your emotional needs and responses will help.
Dick's Sun Sextile
Mary Tyler's Venus (easier aspect):
If this is the most
exact contact between your charts, you will be concerned with the quality and
balance of your relationship. In fact, all the relationships that arise as a
result of your partnership will be of great importance to you. How to resolve
conflict through cooperation and negotiation will be a core preoccupation.
Easier aspects: There
is a natural sweetness and harmony in your life together. You are genuinely
fond of each other and appreciate each other's qualities and gifts. It will be
easier for the two of you to define a relationship style that both of you can
agree upon. And, you can easily express your tender and loving feelings for
each other. Your social life will be full and you will actively seek social occasions.
Challenging aspects:
Although you do appreciate and genuinely like each other, there will be times
that you act in ways that seem to be unkind, inconsiderate, or lack caring. At
those times, you will appear to be taking your partner for granted and that is
not good for your relationship. No relationship can survive without sufficient
praise and acknowledgement. Self-indulgence or spending can be an issue.
Compromising too much to satisfy your partner and thus losing self-esteem can
be another sore point.
Mary Tyler's Venus
Square Dick's Saturn (challenging aspect):
If this is the most
exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme concerns the
values of seriousness, integrity, trust, commitments and contracts.
Challenging aspects: It's possible there are obstacles to being
committed in love or in business that will frustrate both of you. Timing can be
an issue - you may wait too long and delay your decision until the opportunity
has passed by. You will learn by trial and error your own rhythm of timing, and
when making a move or taking action feels right to you. Avoid negative
criticism of yourself and others, because it is counterproductive. It's also
only part of the whole picture.
Easier aspects: You are cautious when getting involved and
look for trustworthiness and quality in others, but these are also what you are
willing to give. You feel most content with familiar repeated patterns or
habits and with creating financial and emotional security. The stability of
marriage or formal business contracts appeals to your careful and methodical
nature. You are well organized and reliable and tend to keep your word. Others
will seek out these admirable abilities. You will be offered positions of
responsibility and leadership, and your sense of timing is excellent.
Dick's Moon Trine
Mary Tyler's Moon (easier aspect):
If this is the most
exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is emotional
harmony and free emotional expression in your daily life. Mundane concerns and
home and family issues will preoccupy you. More than likely you will share
living space or spend large chunks of time together in one location or
environment.
Easier aspects: As you get to know each other, you will be
pleased that you share very similar tastes and emotional sensibilities. You
will feel quite comfortable with each other. Creating a pleasing, cozy and
secure home environment will be much easier for you, because you tend to like
the same styles and have the same tastes. Often, you will be preoccupied with
family matters, and each of your families is likely to play and important role
in your relationship.
Challenging
aspects: It is more difficult for the
two of you to be in sync with each other because of this aspect. When one is
up, the other may be down, or one of you is a night person while the other is
an early bird. Timing can be tricky, and it will take some adjustment to find a
way to relate and reduce frustrations. Certain habits or idiosyncrasies of your
partner can be almost unbearable for you. With time, patience and love, each of
you can modify the most offensive irritants, and the rest will simply have to
be tolerated if you plan to share a residence.
Dick's Moon Trine
Mary Tyler's Pluto (easier aspect):
If this is the most
exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme concerns
managing the deep feelings you arouse in each other. Learning to channel the
powerful emotions generated by your partnering is your next challenge.
Easier aspects: Your bond is strong and focused, you can
change anything you train your attention on. The power generated by this aspect
cannot be contained by your relationship alone. You will find yourselves
involved in organizations where powerfully committed people like yourselves
gather to make things happen. Being analytically inclined, you can be problem
solvers or a healing force in business or in your community. Beyond that, you
are survivors and can regenerate in spite of any difficulties you may
encounter.
Challenging
aspects: You will need to work through
some power struggles and even some psychological demons you bring with you from
past experiences. Curbing reactiveness and projection is something you will be
challenged to resolve through trial and error. Because your feelings are so
intense, fear of loss can be generated, which in turn can give rise to
jealousy, control or possessiveness. These emotional responses will not get you
what you want. If you can't easily resolve your conflicts, seek professional
help. Once you settle your power struggles with each other, you will have much
to offer the world and your community.
Mary Tyler's
Mercury Trine Dick's 4th house cusp (easier aspect):
If this is the most
exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is presenting
your particular message to your community and family and in your career. You
can be in the marketing, advertising, journalism, teaching or writing worlds,
because your language and communication skills are clearly obvious.
Easier aspects: Much of your communication and conversation
with each other focuses on practical career matters or issues pertaining to
your top priorities, including your home and family life. Other possible
interests concern the education of children or the continued development of
your own numerous interests and skills. You are recognized and sought out in
your community for communications, teaching or learning skills. You will also
offer ideas and opinions and help to each other in career matters.
Challenging
aspects: Your many skills and interests
can at times distract you from your primary relationship goals. Spending time
regularly going over the list of activities you are committed to and weeding
out those that are not relevant to your goals will keep you from getting
overwhelmed and underproductive. Scattering your energies will dissipate your
message and keep you from your primary goals. Although you need variety,
grouping your interests and tackling a few projects at a time will help you
achieve more in a shorter period. Back up your talk with action.
Mary Tyler's Pluto
Trine Dick's MC (easier aspect):
If this is the most
exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is one of
expressing your power and potential fully and completely and creating
advantages and an example for others in the process.
Easier aspects: You probably felt a strong connection with
your partner when you first met. Each of you knew that you were curious about
the other. Your interest was piqued and you wanted to know, what makes this
person tick? Your partner is a powerful person and could easily be powerful in
their chosen career. As partners, your work in the world will develop and grow
faster than for either of you alone. You could be in business together or
otherwise collaborate on projects. There is an insistence in your energies that
wants to transform outworn systems and breathe new life into them. In the same
sense, you will always find ways to renew your own relationship. And as you
process your struggles, your bond will become stronger and stronger.
Challenging
aspects: You are drawn to and even
magnetized by each other. The feelings you have for your partner can at times
be overpowering. If you're not careful, you can overreact and express such negative
emotions as jealousy, rage, possessiveness and attempting to control your
partner. Make no mistake, everyone has these feelings, but, if they take over
your relationship and are excessive or bring pain, then you'll need some
professional counseling. There is great energy between you and you have the
potential to be quite successful. Make sure, however, that your big plans are
legal and ethical and, if you put up big stakes that you've researched the risk
and the expenditures are worth it.
Dick's Moon Sextile
Mary Tyler's Mercury (easier aspect):
If this is the most
exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship themes are emotional
and mental communication and having a network of friends. You will communicate
intuitively and will enjoy discussing your feelings. You tend to be honest and
matter-of-fact about the state of your emotions.
Easier aspects: It's very possible that you will find
yourselves talking endlessly about many different topics. Your relationship is
healthier when you have a free flow of communication and emotional release. You
will enjoy being around others who like to speak freely and often on many
different topics. It's possible that at least one of you is a writer or teacher
or has a career in communications.
Challenging
aspects: There are times, no matter how
hard you try, that you will simply talk past each other and fail to understand
what the other person is trying to communicate. This can be extremely
frustrating. Take your time, breathe and keep trying to state things in
different ways until you find that your partner understands what you mean.
Fortunately, you have the impetus to want to communicate, so with some
trial-and-error you will find the way.
Dick's Sun Conj
Mary Tyler's MC:
If this is the most
exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme concerns the
quality and success of home, family and career matters. Where you are headed
will be a vital question.
Challenging
aspects: There may be power or ego
issues between you when it comes to career and family concerns. Do not make a
battleground of your relationship. Take regular time to sit down and process
each of your fears and concerns, so that both of you feel heard and
acknowledged. Do not let false pride or hurt feelings take over the natural joy
you feel when you are together. Spend plenty of time playing with each other.
If you have children, make sure you balance your time alone and your time
parenting.
Easier aspects: Making compromises and balancing career and
family interests will be easier for you to handle. One or both of you will be
well established or recognized in your chosen field. Supporting each other and
loyalty toward each other's goals and concerns come naturally to you. Since you
prefer order, creating a balance between family life and your duties at work
seems easier to accomplish.
Dick's Uranus
Square Mary Tyler's MC (challenging aspect):
If this is the most
exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is to bring new,
original ideas and advanced humanitarian perspectives into community, home and
career.
Challenging
aspects: You will shift each other's
perceptions about your career or family life. You will seek to bring in new
elements or advanced ideas. Sometimes, however, your methods are too abrupt and
you can shock others with your style. It's possible you will at times become
embroiled in controversy, since your energies attract it. If you soften your
approach, you may receive more support. Also be sure that what you are fighting
for is worth the disruption.
Easier aspects:
Together, you can be agents for change for each other and also elevate and
introduce original thinking into your workplace. Your home is likely to have
unusual elements or a unique mixture of household members. It's possible you
have a career that is out of the ordinary or highly creative or both.
Truthfulness and honesty are high values between you, and you seek to be
forthright in all your dealings.
Mary Tyler's Venus
Square Dick's Mars (challenging aspect):
If this is the most
exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is to understand
the opposing forces and needs for both harmony and conflict in your
relationship life. How you handle conflict is both the problem and the solution.
Challenging aspects:
There's more of an edge to your conflicts and sometimes your arguments can go
too far, and you hurt each other. If you see frustration mount between you, do
something about it immediately before you create negative patterns that are
hard to break. You may want to seek professional help to find ways both to
reduce and diffuse areas of conflict. If you're going to fight, learn how to
fight fair. Your conflicts will always be there to some extent, but you can
diminish the escalation. It's also worthwhile to recognize and appreciate the
effort that both of you put into your relationship.
Easier aspects:
Conflict is a fact of life, but the two of you seem to have learned quickly a
way to deal with your differences in a productive and mutually satisfactory
way. There's always likely to be a little sparring between you and some healthy
debate, but perhaps that's something you enjoy. Finding a balance between the
assertive and harmonizing qualities of relationship and life appear to come
more easily to you. Others are charmed by the way you handle yourselves as a
couple.